Marriage -made by men

Recently a proposed marriage was stopped by the brides side. The reason given was the bride wanted to be taken out by the bridegroom before marriage and it seems he refused telling it is not common in their family.What a silly reason.We have to think where we Tamilians are going and is there anything to be proud of our so called culture.Think of the parents of the bride.The betrothel was over two months ago.They are not at all bothered about the girls future .Where are we going?